1.10.06

How Baby O came into the world….

*Warning, very long post*

I've left my beautiful girls at the hospital. I felt like I was tearing a part of my heart away, leaving them behind. But I'm so grateful to God, because it could have been so different. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions, to say the least.

It all began at 7pm, when we left for the hospital. Before that, my wife had dutifully gotten the cot ready for Baby O.

Suitcase all packed, and we were ready to go !! We prayed together, and off we went.

The plan was simple, I was to drop her in the induction ward, and go home by 9pm. When she goes into labour, I would get a phone call and meet her in the labour ward. But as with most things in life, it didn't go according to plan.

Mrs Boso was hooked up to a monitor which was checking the baby's heartbeat.

It was only meant to be on her for about 15 minutes, but they noticed some 'dips' in the graph for the baby's heartbeat, and left it on for an hour.

I hate hospitals. My mum is a doctor, so I grew up around hospitals, and when she started her own clinic, I was there a lot. I find that hospitals are a place of despair, where you see so many worried or sad faces. I can't stand it. I can't stand needles. I can't stand blood. I can't stand any of it, nurses, doctors, the very sight of them causes my blood to boil. (No offence to any doctor reading this).

So when I saw the doctors, nurses and midwives 'huddle' and talk about the chart, I had a feeling something was wrong. I tried to pry information from the doctor, but she gave nothing away, all she told me was 'We're just taking every precaution'.

My wife was feeling sleepy, but I was determined not to leave until they removed the monitor. However, she wanted to sleep, so I left at about 10pm. I got home, did the dishes, and was about to take off my shoes when my phone rang.

The midwife said that they were concerned about the baby's heartbeat, and that they had moved my wife to the labour ward, and they needed me to be with her as she was worried, and 'needed to see a familiar face'. I could see through all the sugar coating, and demanded to know what had happened. Bless her, she did her very best not to panic me, and asked me to 'drive carefully and not have an accident on the way'.

I grabbed my car keys, and ran out of the house. Jumped in the car, and it took all of my will power not to drive like a maniac. There was an accident on the route, so I had to take another way, which just added to my worry. I eventually got there, and made my way to the labour ward.

What had happened in my absence is that the baby's heartbeat had dropped drastically, and set off an alarm. Before my poor wife could figure out what was going on, she was whisked off to the labour ward, and they explained to her that the baby was in distress and they needed to do an emergency Caesarean section. By the time I got there, they updated me, and I was told to quickly change into my 'scrubs'.

My wife was worried, so worried. I didn't know what to say to her. I held her hand, and we said a quick prayer. It was short, but I've never prayed a more heartfelt prayer in my life. We were whisked into the theatre. The midwife and nurse did their best to tell us not to worry, that it was probably nothing, and that everything would be alright.

Looking at everyone in the theatre, I noticed that there was a sense of urgency. They were all working like every second counted. It was so scary. I focused on making sure my wife didn't panic, but it was SO HARD. The pediatrician was already waiting there before we got there, ready to examine the baby as soon as she was born.

The procedure started. It was nerve racking, but thankfully, it was also quick. At 11.24pm, Baby O made her way into this world. It took a few minutes, but she soon started to cry. Then I heard one of the the doctors say 'there's a true knot in the umbilical cord'. And then the doctor told me that was most likely caused the baby to be in distress.

She was handed over to the pediatrician, and the midwife asked me to come and see her. She looked so tiny, as they gave her oxygen, and the pediatrician checked her out. I caught a few glimpses of the doctors sewing up my wife back up, it was so gory !! But anyway, back to Baby O.

She was so gorgeous !! She had one eye open, and was looking like she was in shock. The pediatrician confirmed that everything was fine, and that it was probably the umbilical cord that caused the distress, they would watch her for a few days, but she was fine. We took the baby over to see her mother, who was under anaesthetic, but managed to say hello to her daughter.

After the operation, we were taken back to the labour ward, where I was allowed to hold my angel for the first time. It was such a wonderful feeling !! I sang to my little girl, I held her, I rocked her, and looked into her beady eyes. When I put her down, she cried a little, so I picked her up again. It was love at first sight.

I finally left the hospital at 2am. I was so tired, as I was awake since 5am the morning before, but I couldn't sleep. I did a quick 'google' on the Internet, and found out what a close call we'd had. Apparently, a 'true knot' in the umbilical cord is one of the most common causes of a stillbirth. Already today, I've spoken to someone who knows a baby that died that way. I got on my knees and thanked God for his many mercies.

Today was routine, I spent most of the day running around, buying stuff for my wife, and helping her in the hospital. I couldn't get enough of my little princess. I held her at every opportunity, she even threw up on me !! But she's doing very well.

Mrs. Boso is recovering well, and if all goes well, she'll be home on Tuesday or Wednesday. I've had LOADS of texts, phone calls and emails from friends congratulating me. Thank you all so very much.

Anyway, I'm home now. I'm going to have to work very hard at the housework, and helping with the baby till I go back to work on the 16th. But I'm so grateful. When I got back today, and I saw the baby seat, I almost burst into tears.

It could have been so, so different.

25 comments:

  1. The important thing is that it turned out great. It is so easy for us to dwel on what could have been. I do it all the time... but try not too.
    Your girl is so cute, she has the most perfect little face. Please give her a little kiss on her button nose for me.
    It must have been so scary for your poor wife. I am glad you got back so fast and she didn't have to be alone for very long.
    God has blessed you, He must have a very special plan for Baby O.
    God bless all 3 of you xoxoxoxoxo

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  2. I think you should just focus on the future. You were given a blessing for a reason, take it and run with all. Keep calm and just have as much time with your girls as you can before the 16th. Love and best wishes, Katharine

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  3. wow..bro..am so glad and happy for u..and thank god all went well and cheers for texting me!! i realised u were busy and so didnt want to ring u till later yesterday evening...hope ur feeling ok bro....congrats again bro and also to the mrs..my regards and congrats to her too!and boy did my niece give u a scare then hehehe:-) shall ring u tonite if thats ok??

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  4. I'm so glad they're both ok, Boso. God answers prayers, sounds like you've been totally blessed, so many congratulations to you both, she's a lovely little girl.

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  5. Boso, I'm so very glad for a successful birth of Baby O. How long expected and how loved she must be! Praying for good recovery for your wife and that your girls will be home soon.

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  6. A ku ori re o! Jesu seun o! Iro ayo bayii la 'ma gbo o!

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  7. Congratulations Boso! You must be over the moon with delight.

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  8. SHE'S HERE....SHE'S HERE.........SHE'S REALLY HERE!! Oh my is she ever beautiful! Give your wife a HUGE hug for me and tell her I know how she feels. It's was only just over 5 weeks ago that my labour and delivery plans were different then we had thought too but like every one keeps telling you, the greatest thing is she is here and healthy. Much love to you and yours! WAY TO GO BOSO FAMILY!!!

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  9. Congrats. God bless you all. x.x.x

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  10. May God bless you and keep you. May his face shine upon your family and keep them safe.
    I am very happy for you. I just want to squidge that little girl of yours. Well done mum. Oh and what have you named the little one.
    Love, wisdom and courage my brother in christ.
    S

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  11. I'm crying tears of joy reading about Baby O's entry into the world. It could have been different but thank God it wasnt. Now I really understand how my cousin felt when she lost her baby - it was a stillbirth and could have been caused by a true knot too. Thanks for enlightening us. Lots of hugs & kisses to Baby O and her mum.

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  12. Congratulations to all three of you! Glad to hear it turned out okay; God really does keep his hand in, by the looks of things. I wish health and happiness to Baby O for a long life.

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  13. She's absolutely perfect. Massive congratulations and tonnes of love to you and your family. x

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  14. Congratulations! Lots of hugs been sent your way.
    *feeling rather broody*
    xxxxxxxx

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  15. Many, many congratulations!
    I got prettyyy teary reading that, i am so very happy that your beautiful wife and GORGEOUS little daughter are both ok now.
    Best of luck to you and your wife, and welcome to baby o :)
    Looking forward to your news, stories and pictures to come over the next few years about your lovely little baby!!
    xxxxxx

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  16. Congratulations - how wonderful to have such a beautiful addition to your family xx

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  17. Fabulous news! Congratulations, love and huge hugs to you all! :oD xxxxxxxx

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  18. That surprised smiley face was supposed to be a big grinning smiley! xx

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  19. Oh my, she's just beautiful.

    I am so happy for you and your wife :) Your wife is very lucky to have such a great, supportful husband. Bless all 3 of you.

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  20. I'm soo happy for you and Bimbo. Baby O is truly adorable. God is soooo good to us. Thank God for her safe delivery, he truly works out everything for our good. :)

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  21. Mr and Mrs Boso,

    Congratulations on the new chic....be sure to expect guys knocking on ur door very soon!!!!
    This is reassuring of God's love towards us who believe!!!!

    It is well

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  22. Oh, she's so beautiful! I'm sooo glad both mummy and baby are well, and thank god everything turned out ok! Sending all my love and kisses to you and your lovely little family! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  23. I think it's pretty obvious now that she's THE Special One, so Jose Mourinho needs a new name.

    God obviously has huge plans for her. Boy am I glad she's here.

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  24. OMG you had me at the edge of my seat. I thank God that wverything went well. Childbirth trully is a miracle.

    I love your blog!

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  25. Congratulations Mr. & Mrs. Boso. Thank God for his many mercies, i'm sure seeing the entire childbirth process, and the risks involved, would make u appreciate Mrs. Boso even more, and she'll appreciate u more, for being there for her. May God grant u the wisdom, all everything u need to take care of BabyO- Amen.

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